1 Kings 11-12:20, Esther 2:15 – 7:10, Acts 13:13-52
Today we are going to study our power of influence as women.
“God entrusted to womankind a most wonderful and terrible gift: the power of influence.” Beth Moore Living Beyond Yourself
The sense of smell triggers emotion and memory. I can remember the smell of my mom when I was growing up. I can’t recall the name of the perfume she wore, but she had a sweet, comforting fragrance that made me feel safe and loved. On nights when my brother and I would stay at my grandmas while my parents went out to dinner I would get so excited for her to return just to smell her. It was H.O.M.E. to me. She was my world and I adored her– still do.
My mother had an enormous influence over me. She was my first teacher and guide. She nurtured me, helped me grow and develop, taught me right from wrong and encouraged me in the right direction.
As women, we have this amazing, powerful and frightening gift of influence over our children and families. We have to choose to use that power for good and not evil. There’s a fine line between influence and manipulation. We want to raise godly children not brainwashed children. We want honest and loving marriages not stepford husbands.
Eve was the woman behind the fall of man. Satan knew of Eve’s influence and tricked Adam by persuading Eve first. Adam was influenced by Eve to eat the fruit of the forbidden tree. Just as Eve was targeted by Satan in the garden of Eden we can become targets if we aren’t Prepared, Patient and Poised.
King Solomon was greater in ______________ and _______________ than all the other kings of the earth (1 Kings 10:23 NIV). With everything King Solomon had he still fell under the influence of his wives. He had many many wives from all over. Each wife brought a different religion into the marriage. Solomon eventually allowed his wives to turn his _____________ after __________
_______, and his heart was not ________ _________ to God (1 Kings 11:4 NIV). The wisest king in the entire earth still fell pray to the influence of women. What a gift was possess. I believe God has called us daughters to action and intentional living in order to be gentle and peaceful instead of anxious or stressed.
Preparation + Patience + Poise = a Women of Good Influence
Preparation: Get ready by reading God’s Word, praying and spending time with Him; letting Him influence your personality, behavior and character. (Luke 6:45)
Patience: (this is my area of internal struggle— I always want to do things on my time instead of waiting for the right time.) Seek God’s purpose and plans for your life. Let him tell you “when”. Be patient as you wait in His Presence.
Poised: Well-Mannered, Balanced, Nobel Character: We are dispensers of God’s grace. He uses us, ladies, to nurture, encourage, love, teach and so much more. When we find our confidence in God’s competence we are able to live balanced, composed and courageous lives.
“Confidence allows us to face life with boldness, opens and honesty. It enables us to live without worry and to feel safe. It enables us to live authentically.” Joyce Meyer The Confident Women
In closing, let’s take a look at the influence of Queen Esther and the way she prepared, was patient and poised. From the moment she entered the palace she found favor with the king and all those in authority. She was given special food and beauty treatments immediately. Having favor allowed Esther to gain confidence that allowed her to be used by God in a mighty way.
Finding favor gives you influence.
Preparation: Esther prayed, fasted and prepared for her meeting with the king. (Esther 4:16)
Patience: Esther was patient when making her request to the king on behalf of the Jews. She didn’t panic and rush into the throne room. She didn’t even make her concerns known until the second dinner. (Esther 5:7-8)
Poise: Esther was controlled and well mannered in her actions during a difficult and frightening situation. I Believe that’s because she took the time to prepare and was filled with peace and faith that only God could’ve provided. She knew the God she served was a powerful God. He was in control no matter the outcome. (Esther 4:16)
Research and Define
Questions and Reflections:
- How do you receive favor from people?
- How do you influence people the most?
- What about Esther’s story of influence seems most remarkable?
- When you think of influence, what/who do you think about? Why?
- Do you influence or manipulate more?
- Take a moment and list your strengths.
Memorize and Meditate
We have a choice to use our influence for encouragement or discouragement. Choose to speak life today.
Heavenly Father I come to you in the Name of Jesus. Thank you so much for loving me. Lord, influence my personality, alter me from the inside out to reflect Your glory. You are my rock and foundation. I will choose to be an influence for good. All I do I do for You, to honor and glory Your name. Help me to encourage and uplift, be patient and poised and prepared for all that comes my way.
In Jesus’ Name,
1 Kings 10:23
1 Kings 11:4-6
2 Corinthians 2:14
1 Peter 3:4
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